It’s nearly twelve years since I was diagnosed, though I had symptoms going back longer than that, but my GP kept insisting there was nothing wrong. Why don’t medics at least give us credit for knowing our own bodies? Anyway, I’ve seen four different neurologists none of whom had anything to offer me. I don’t even have one at the moment., so don’t even get sn Annual review. Each one has trotted out the assurance that my MS is “mild”. Well, it doesn’t feel mild to me, I appreciate that it might not be as aggressive as some of you endure, but I’m really struggling now. I’ve not been able to live independently for about nine years now. I’ve deteriorated steadily since diagnosis, and it shows no sign of slowing down or stopping, and I’ve worsened markedly in the last few weeks. I can’t do much, but I’m fortunate in that I’m not in pain, I feel well and my general health is good. I’m 61 and retired. Again I’m lucky in that I worked for long enough and contributed enough to have a decent pension, so I’m not poor (or wealthy) and am not dependent on benefits to survive.
i can’t walk more than a few steps with crutches or frame, and it takes me ages to do those few steps. I’ve got restricted movement in my arms, I need help in and out of chairs/bed/car, I need help dressing/undressing, I can’t use cutlery, lift a kettle or make a meal. I can’t manage alone at home. I suffer urge incontinence, I had Botox earlier this year which truly transformed my life, but it’s worn off now. I was assured it would be done again before it got this bad, but this hasn’t happened, I’m on the waiting list, but the first time I had it done I was waiting on a list for 24 weeks. So I’m back to soggy pads, damp underwear, and worrying about accessible toilets, whether I’m going to leave a damp patch wherever I sit, and do I smell?
I’m usually fairly upbeat, stoical, and positive and I try really hard, but is it worth the effort? I usually take the view that there’s always someone worse off, which doesn’t make me feel any better, but usually helps me keep things in perspective. What did I do to deserve this? I’m not a saint, but I’m not a bad person.
I’m sorry for wallowing in self pity, and to any of you who gets to the end of this post thanks for listening.