Mrs J. Please, please don’t despair. You WILL recover from this! Once you and your daughter, come to terms with this news, you will see it really is NOT the end of the world, but the start of a better one for you all. It is like most things, the initial shock leaves you rigid, and you torture yourself with the worse case scenario situations. Your granddaughter will only be shown love and care, and will be in a safe environment there and this will (most likely) follow through her schooling.
My youngest daughter had twins, when her first child was only eleven months old. Three children under 12 months! She however, endured a cot death of one of those babies aged a few months old. I thought my heart would break in two, seeing her in so much pain, and there was nothing I could do to take that away. She wasn’t even 25 years old.
Her physically/mentally abusive husband, almost strangled her about twelve months later and she eventually left him. He went on to become a registered sex offender having got a very young teenager pregnant, and is currently in prison for this. More pain to be endured. I honestly do not know how I got through these awful times, let alone her.
Not long after starting school, her remaining twin, was moved to another school. She needed to attend the specialised speech and language unit there. Her first child (now in double digits) is awaiting diagnosis for “something in the autism spectrum”. Both children had to move to this school for practical reasons. How much more was my daughter to be put through? How much more could I bear?
This little girl has come along in leaps and bounds there and after two years, she is now full time mainstream. She is by no means academic, and will never set the world on fire, but she is a happy little girl. Never confident, often teased by her peers and as innocent as the day is long, but she will grow into a lovely young woman one day. In the grand scheme of things, this is really all that’s important.
I can only say to you, remember how you felt when you were diagnosed with MS. Shocked, scared, angry, “why me?”, and then you put it into context and seek out information and get things put in place to help you…and life carries on, just differently. You, and your daughter, will find yourselves doing that with this situation. Give it time, and all will be okay. You and your daughter will find strength and will grow stronger together. xx