This is my first post so excuse me if this has been asked before.
Mother-in-law has MS, she has had a few relapses lately and was admitted to hospital with a suspected stroke (luckily that was not the case) She is unable to stand, drink and eat by herself, and her speech is very limited. She recently had an Mri that should small vessel disease, which has never been explained to us I have looked it up online. She is also incontinent. It’s very sad to see her how she is now and I just want to do anything I can to help her. Her Husband has decided he did not want her home after she left hospital, he didn’t want the adjustments on the house to make it suitable for her, and he also did not want carers in and out of his home. I have to respect his wishes despite feeling as though she would be so much happier at home in her own environment.
I was told by social services to look for a nursing home for her to stay in until she has her DST assessment done, or even permanently if we liked it there. I hope this does not come across wrong but after visiting her in the home I really feel it is not the place for her, the Staff are great, her room is lovely and everywhere is very clean, but it is an elderly person home where 50% of the residence have Dementia. I feel so sorry for her whenever I leave. I’ve sat in the communal lounge with her and everyone is falling asleep and she is just sat there. It’s a very depressing thought knowing this could be the environment she will be living in forever. She is only 57yrs old.
My question is are there any homes that care for MS patients that aren’t centred around the elderly? We live in the Bedfordshire area, any advice would be very gratefully received.
Also what stage of MS does it seem like she is in as that has never been said to any of us?
Thankyou in advance x